No single web page on this site receives as much attention. The story is true and has helped thousands of people deal with an intensely emotional and private decision. My prayer is that you find answers but especially I pray you discover God’s passionate love for you. We have a unique email prayer ministry below where you can seek prayers or you may join us as we pray and write to others. But please if nothing else, remember this… you are not alone. God loves you. A new story on abortion and ministry is listed below.
Abortion: A Personal Story
Jennifer (name changed) was an active member of our congregation, manager of a staff of nurses in a metropolitan hospital and conscientious single mother of a beautiful eight-year-old girl. Yet, Jennifer was in my office crying about a terrible burden she must talk through.
“It was five years ago, today!” she said. “I had only been divorced a short time with a baby to support and living in my old home town. My parents were nice, but resented having to provide financial aid. Most of my former friends had moved. The one man who showed any interest in me was married. I felt terribly lonely and pretty much abandoned by the whole world.”
“My ex-husband came to visit his daughter and took us both to dinner. We had a few drinks and talked about old times. One thing led to another and you can guess what happened next. It was a huge mistake, but I was determined to go on, learn my lesson and never let it happen again. A few weeks later, I didn’t need the test results to know that I was pregnant.”
“What would I do now? My parents would never understand. I couldn’t afford another child. The blow to my fragile self-esteem just seemed too much to bear. I took what I thought was the easy way out and visited a doctor friend who quietly performed the abortion: five years ago… today!”
What would you say to Jennifer? How would you help her cope?
All too often, what you read about abortion boils down to a shouting match between pro-choice and pro-life extremists. Both sides have compelling emotionally charged reasons to support their claims. In the twenty-five years since Roe Vs Wade, the Supreme Court decision which made abortion legal in the U.S. there has been an average of 1.5 to 2 million abortions per year in this country alone. This is an issue that offers little middle ground. You must choose… but can you take a firm stand while offering compassion and love to those who disagree with you?
Jennifer doesn’t need to hear our arguments over whether she is justified in having an abortion. She needs compassion… not judgment. Doctors use the term: Post Abortion Depression to describe her emotional trauma. I call it guilt and God gives excellent answers in dealing with it.
Shortly after the prophet Nathan exposed an affair with Bathsheba, David wrote this confession: “But you desire honesty from the heart, so you can teach me to be wise in my inmost being.” (Psalm 51:6) In other words, our willingness to be painfully honest with ourselves, with each other and with God is the beginning of our path toward wisdom and healing.
David goes on to describe the benefits of honesty, confession and a willingness to repent: “Purify me from my sins, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Oh, give me back my joy again; you have broken me—now let me rejoice.” Our willingness to be honest in facing our shortcomings actually gives God the chance to heal us and even bring back our joy.
Over time, Jennifer learned to accept God’s forgiveness and began to heal. She began to share her story with others, first to her parents, then at church and finally to groups of young women. She said something in her talk that I will never forget…
“Don’t ever delude yourself with the hoax that abortion is a quick, painless solution. The ordeal of telling my parents and the embarrassment I feared would have been temporary. The grief of ‘What my child could have been, if only I had let him live…’ will last forever. Only God’s grace gives me the strength to stand before you now!”
Today, Jennifer is a stronger Christian because she personally knows what it means to feel God’s loving, forgiving, compassionate and simply amazing grace. It is a message we all need to hear time and time again.
God is looking to offer you love and forgiveness.